Ok...let me be the first to thank you Sandy for your comment to Sharla. I for one don't care if you like the Gosselin's or GDNNOP but don't act like a 1o year old and start to call out names. But then again...I am glad that my little blog gets under your skin. While you fume I laugh. And believe me I am not the only one doing that...
So I saw the YouTube post on another blog about J&K and my first reaction about some of the commentary was (and I am ashamed to admit it) funny. Because I sometimes think Kate gets on Jon and has his giggle berries in a cup. But then again some women are like that. I will have to say that I did get very upset when they started to get on the kids or talking about how Jon should rid himself of them. I get it...its funny to insinuate stuff like that but when you look at today's headlines and see that people are actually doing stuff like that (Susan Smith in NC and the Andrea Yates of TX) I for one stop laughing. And reading story after story of child abuse or how people starve their children or one story which made me cry for days (which is very unlike me) about sexually and physically abusing a 4 month old child make me fume and thankful that people who have a lot of children like Jon and Kate actually take care of them. I don't agree with her saying its the states responsibility of taking care of them. But instead of going on welfare and refusing to work she and Jon did something about it. Not everyone will agree with what they did...but d*mn it they took responsibility.
I guess my anger is with those who choose to make fun of the kids. I don't see how Jon and Kate do it. I will have to say that I admire them when it comes to that. Because if it were me and people were dogging my kids out by calling them murderers, homosexuals, or rugrats then all bets are off. I wouldn't care what you call me if you disagree with me but you leave my children out of it. They are innocent little beings who have not said anything bad about anyone. Yet because of peoples dislike of Jon and Kate feel like the kids are fair game. If you wonder why Mady and Cara are not happy or aren't seen on camera much I'll tell you why...they probably read all kinds of things about them. I mean how do you explain to your child (an 8 year old no less) the reason why people say rude and ugly things about them even though they never met them. I have to give Jon and Kate props. If I saw my child getting drug through the mud then you wouldn't have to worry about not knowing how I feel. Because let me tell you I would let all know so much, they would have so many tapes on YouTube you could take your pick. I mean Jon and Kate really do live by the commandment of loving thy neighbor no matter how bad they treat you. I am sorry but I am not that far along in my walk with Christ that I wouldn't take action if people stooped to the level of talking about my children.
Which brings me to the subject of "why are they on TV then?" Because like a lot of people out there are like Kate and want to make sure they have lights or heat or food. Yes she's made a lot of money...but at the same time she's also open herself up to alot of judgements and criticism. When I sit back and listened to those two dj's on YouTube this morning I don't think I would have had as thick of skin as Kate or Jon. I don't know if I could take seeing my child crumble when reading all the hateful things said about her. Because if truth be told she does act a lot like Mady. But she is a cute and very sweet child. (She just has a flare for the dramatics.) So could I really listen to people say.."she's on the computer all the time..." or "boy does she let the laundry pile up..." or " boy does she look frumpy...she could have at least did her hair." I don't know. But if it meant that I wouldn't have to worry about whether to pay rent or buy groceries then yea...I would. I would show that I am a short tempered, frumpy, control freak, who really wants to live without having to lie awake at night trying to re-figure my budget over and over again to be able to make it through the month.
So am I living in a dream Sharla? No...because I don't believe Kate and Jon are destitute and no I do not believe they are claiming to be. Am I living in a dream when I think I would do the same thing? Yes...because until you have been in the situation where you have to choose whether to buy diapers and feed your family or pay a bill then shut your mouth. Yes I said it and meant it. I have been there and let me tell you if a company showed up at my doorstep then and asked me...my answer would be "hell yes. When can we start?" Until you know what's it like to have to go an entire month on $50 or less with an infant child and a toddler then BE QUIET!!! They did what they had to do and now they have to listen to people call their kids name. But then again those are the same people who "child advocates". I may not like what they do all the time but I stop when it comes to the kids.
So...(as I step off my soapbox...sorry about going off) I want to know the answer to all those who are in "protest" of Jon and Kate or all of those who love them...are people crossing the line when it comes to the Gosselins...especially their kids? Or is everyone fair game since they are in the public eye?
Oh...Sharla...just to let you know that I am laughing as I write this part "I know you are...but what am I?" I'm sorry but I had to say it...since as adults we LOVE to stoop to childish behavior because that is after all what your doing? Right? (Sorry guys...but I had to do it. I just couldn't help myself. ;} )
3 years ago
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I really think that the children should be off limits . The bloggers should know better and the mods should not let any comments on that are hurtful to the kids. Jon and Kate can handle anything that is said about them, they are adults. That being said...the other site (GWoP)does let on hurtful comments and their mission is suppose to be advocacy for the kids. Doesn't make sense to me.
It's Sandy again. You're welcome for the comment :) I just think this is a very nice blog with positive comments and those who do not like the show or Jon and Kate should leave their rude comments somewhere else.
Another thing I want to get off my chest is just what you have written in your post. Someday, (if Cara and Mady don't already) the kids will find these blogs and will read the posts and the comments. Somethings that have been written about the Gosselin children and their parents are sickening. What I find most hurtful are the comments that say (for example) "Kate hates her kids" or "Jon and Kate want to sell Mady to the Gypsies". It is truly mean and cruel to let a child think that their parents don't love them. In fact, it's the worst thing a person can do to a child. All children need to know that they are the most precious, important thing in their parents life and that needs to be reinforced to them by their parents and other adults in their lives.
I work in the foster care field with children who have been abused by their bio parents. Do you think we say to the kids "Your mom neglected you because she doesn't love you?" No, never, ever, ever. That would break the child's heart. Now I'm not comparing Jon and Kate to child abusers at all, but I am saying that we (all of us in bloggy land) no matter how we feel about them need to let those awesome kids know that Jon and Kate love them and are doing their best for them.
I don't always agree with Kate's approach or manner, but I do think she is a good mom and her kids adore her and what else really matters than that :) Okay, off MY soap box.
Thanks for letting me post here. You are doing a good thing for the kids.
i don't get the hate on mady, she is really really sweet when she's not around her sextuplet siblings.
it's just a cry for attention, that's all, and Jon and Kate are doing their best to work with her, like giving her timeouts in that episode where they were in that resort?
plus, remember when mady stood up for collin? that was lovely.
It really bothers me when I read a post or a comment about the Gosselin children. I think that the mods that let abusive comments about the children are just as guilty as the poster and lets just all agree that GWoP was NEVER an advocacy site for the Gosselin kids!! I could care less what the mods at GWoP say their "mission" is. All you have to do is read one thread on that blog and their "mission" is VERY clear...an anti-Gosselin hate site.
I understand that people don't like Jon and Kate. However, I don't understand the purely hateful things that is said about them and their family! They are just people, humans like you and me. Yes, they have their own show, yes they make more money then I do, but YES they have the same worries that I do! If I was offered my own show I would jump at it! I fully support them in what they are doing and I know that they are looking out for the best interest of their children!
I fully agree with Sandy! I don't always like the way that Jon and Kate handle things (they wouldn't always agree with how I parent either!) but I DO think that they both love each other and their children VERY much! I don't believe that Kate is doing the show so she can go and get a manicure once a month. I believe she is doing the show to ensure that her family has their needs and yes some wants, met. Isn't that why we all work as hard as we do?
What utube video are you referring to in your original post?
I can't locate the original post by either Sandy or Sharla. but I'm new here. I was just trying to figure out when the *viewers* get to see the new house.
I have posted things saying that when the kids are older they will need therapy to counteract mom's perfectionistic views which I feel will affect (negatively) the way they see the world and themselves (mostly themselves)
Hopefully this does not come off as bashing the kids. I don't think anyone should bash the kids. They are in a situation they have no control over and I'm sure they are actually doing the best they can.
Kate, however, is another story. Jon... well... I feel for him too. I think he may have given up. In the old eps, he would say things like "get the stick out" - not the best choice of words, but that's life. When he's sitting, considering, he doesn't do that - in fact, he just sits and takes it. I've been around a lot of verbally abused wives, but very rareyly have I seen this level of husband abuse.
In general, I feel sort of bad for everyone on the show, except for Kate.
And when I'm not feeling bad, I'm still watching, cause the kids are cute and I have a "thing" for large families (although, thankfully, I got over my desire to have one before some unfortunate child ended up with me for a mother).
However, the show was more interesting when they were just living their lives - all these trips and field trips are boring. I'd rather watch Twins, Twins and Sextuplets. I really liked those parents. For example, the mom didn't act "put upon."
Well I used to be a frequent reader of GWP and they are just too negative. I do realize that Jon and Kate make mistakes but a lot of what they nag on just didn't happen. It really makes me mad that they don't let any positive comments through, they truly are the Gosselin Hating Site. Sharla is very rude and childish, after deleting all my positive comments (which intern questioned all their outrages negative ones) she then proceeded to post this:
Sharla said...
Aaron's comments were removed as were most references to them as I recognized the same style as a troll from last week. Reasonable disagreement is quite acceptable while trolling and deliberate pot stirring is not. I recognize today is important to the nation, however, this blog is not the place for political discussion. Please enjoy that at the many other sites where it is truly welcome.
But whatever Im so over GWP and I just wanted to let everybody who will listen to realize that they need to take GWP comments and posts with a grain of salt.
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